Quick Update

Well, we made it to Kiev (more unbelievable details to come on that one). We have our 2 new ones with us. They have been troopers through it all so far, but Jennie and I are pretty sketchy. We've watched first meetings (brother and sister), had first baths, first meals together. They love their new shoes so much, they want to sleep in them. We've had some heroic efforts from several people to get us this far tonight, I will definitely expand on that (Sally, the Griswolds have nothing on us). We still have one more hurdle tomorrow morning, please pray that the Embassy will complete their Visas before our plane is supposed to leave. Hope everyone is well, Boys, we miss you and we are doing everthing we can do to get home to you as soon as we can.

Last Night in Gorlovka

I can hardly believe it is our last night in Gorlovka. Tomorrow our life will dramatically change from a family of four to a family of six! I can’t believe we get to take them out of their respective orphanages, FINALLY! It seems like a dream. Our day has been filled with a lot of special memories and special people here who have wished us well and supported us in many ways. I am not sure if we can ever thank them enough. I realize our experience may be somewhat different than most that may come or have already been here. God has surely blessed us and it has been quite humbling to say the least.

Our day started by getting ready for church, and of course, we were five minutes late again. We were both suffering from sinus stuff through the night so I felt like a truck hit me this morning….. Church was awesome. Kostya and his wife joined everyone too. After the service when we got to the prayer requests our names were listed on the bulletin. Everyone was so supportive and genuinely happy for us as we came to our last Sunday together. Kostya and Olga then took us back to the drug store for some antibiotics and meds just in case. Don’t want to get on the plane feeling this bad. Last night, whatever Anna bought sure did the trick around midnight. I drank it, waited a minute, and then thought, “I wonder if this stuff will help me sl……”. That is as much as I can remember.

This afternoon, our friend Vanya came to talk a bit before we went to a church dinner. He is one of the neatest kids I have ever had the pleasure to know. He is so pleasant and so full of humor with an old spirit. If you can imagine, a tall, lanky and funky dressed Jim Allen (family friend in Swansboro). He has as many jokes and stories to go one on one with Jim. Since we know Jim’s roots began in a remote part of this country – could it be possible that they are related???? His dream is to be a preacher and study in the states and then come back here. Before he left tonight, he said to both Jeff and me, “I don’t know if anyone from here has said this, but as a citizen of Ukraine, thank you for adopting those children”. It was very moving. To have met a youth with that level of maturity and knowledge about life in general is rare. Of course, in America, our kids do not realize what they have. It’s amazing.

So then, we went to our dinner. It was a literal feast. I mean, there was stuffed cabbage, salads, peerozhKEY (phonetic spelling, sorry for mutilating that Olga and Anna), sirnic, roasted chicken, beets with all kinds of crazy stuff mixed in that was awesome, and bleene (our favorite!). Then for dessert we had good old fashioned apple pie with ice cream, Chewy Charlies and lemon bars. All the Babooshkas were so happy to know that Jeff ate 9 peeroshKEY’s. They were equally amazed that I counted how many he ate. They are like a croissant with mashed potatoes inside or peas that are mashed up with garlic. It was sooooo good. I feel as full tonight as I did last Sunday night! Thank goodness we have not eaten like that very often! At least here most people walk where ever they go so they have a chance to burn off what they ate! It was really nice though. All the Babooshka’s said they would wait on the benches for us to return tomorrow afternoon before we get on the train. They are very anxious to see the kids so I pray that they will be able to meet them and get the chance to give them a hug and a kiss goodbye. We have a few pics of the night that Jeff will try to add tonight.

We are not sure how or when we can write again. Maybe on the train we hope. Keep us in your prayers for a safe train ride, car/taxi, and then three planes on Wednesday. We are a bit anxious about the next three days as I am sure you can imagine. The train station in Kiev will be one of the biggest journeys if we make it without a scratch! There are many stairs and huge crowds of people to lug our kids and bags through (so don’t forget to pray we have patience, too).

Our boys, we love you. We watched Napoleon Dynamite today just for you. We are still counting down the minutes until we can squeeze you tight and make up for all the time we have missed you! Please keep your chins up and your eyes focused until then!!

My dear Pam, it was so good to hear from you. I guess I knew from the moment I read your first post that Fred had passed on. We cannot say we know exactly how you all are feeling. But we have been there and know the depth and breadth of losing a Dad. Please tell Paul that Jeff is especially touched by all he is experiencing and is keeping him (as are all of us, and you, too) in our prayers. Aleeze! It was great to hear from you! Hope you are okay. Everyone else, thanks for truly keeping the “home fires” burning for us while we have been away. I cannot tell you how much more I will appreciate my own bed, my beloved pillow, yelling, screaming, dust, shoes, laundry,……. You get the picture I am sure. I love you all so dearly. Thank you from the bottom of my humbled heart!

Another Slow Saturday

Very slow day today. We did not get to go see Jenna or Joseph. Jennie was able to go shopping with Lora, Ira, and Anna. We needed to get some things for Joseph’s caregivers as well as some other things. We began getting our packing situated, anyone have a private jet they’re not using on Wednesday? Kostya’s birthday party got called off because his son Nikita is really sick. Anna’s visit has been really nice, she cooked us bleenes (sp?) for dinner tonight, very good! I think Jennie and I are both coming down with a cold so we’re trying to rest up for the big sprint for the finish line starting Monday.

Justin and Jacob, hope your games went well today. Today’s the last one Mom and I will miss. So next Saturday, we’ve got a lot of cheering to make up for, plus you’ll both have two new fans thinking how great their big brothers are! Love to all, and Sally, it looks like Houston was spared, please give us an update when you can.

Friday Night

Friday, it seemed like Friday was so far away, but here we are at our last weekend. Today we took Anna with us to see Jenna. Vanya went with us as well, and our favorite driver was able to take us. I’m not sure if its psychosis or numbness to stress, but taxi rides aren’t the white knuckle adventure they used to be. The weather was beautiful and Jenna’s group was just getting ready to go outside. Jenna was still shy towards us today, but Anna and Vanya were able to speak to her and I believe it was comforting to her. Also, it was insightful for us because they were able to ask her questions about her new Mama and Papa and brothers. Anna told her all about her new family who were waiting at home for her. She seemed very happy about being a “Russian-American” princess, she said. We explained, through Vanya, that in 3 days we would be taking her with us. She is very smart and I know she will be speaking English in no time. She was also happy to hear about her new room, with pink bed quilt and flowers on the wall. This time next week, she’ll be sleeping in it! It sounds a little cliché to say “to see things through the eyes of a child”, but the newness and sense of hope and wonder is truly overwhelming.

We got back a little after 1:00 and walked through the marketplace. Not much happening there. Once we made it back here, Anna cooked us a wonderful lunch and then we just hung out the rest of the day. We have some shopping to do tomorrow. Joseph’s caregivers asked for some help getting diapers and cloth to make bibs from. May sound funny, but we’re also trying to plan our strategy with luggage and kids for the trip back to Kiev, the train and train station are not “luggage friendly”. Also, tomorrow is Kostya’s birthday and we’ve been invited to his party. His wife Olga has been cooking for 2 days so that’ll be a nice diversion for us.

Sally, we’re thinking of you and everyone there, you can come to Swansboro to stay you know. Pamela and Paul, I wish we had known earlier so we could have been praying for you, our hearts are so heavy for you and your family. Please tell Sue that she is constantly in our thoughts and prayers as are you. Mom and Cathy, thank you for the updates from home. Char, kiss our boys for us and tell them we’ll be tucking them in before they know it.

Quick Note

Added pictures of Jenna today. Sunny and cool here. Last weekend here, yayyy!!

Anna's Visit

We are counting the days and hours until we are able to return home! Today we really had a wonderful day. We met Anna at the train station with our interpreter Vanya. Kostya has a lot of paper work to complete before we leave so he asked if we would mind having Vanya for a day or two. We had met him at the church we have been going to and he is a delight. He told us a bunch of jokes and was a great help to both Jeff and I and Anna. We visited Edward today. He was fascinated with a chocolate egg with a toy inside from Anna. And of course, more food from mom and dad. He was very happy most of the time – except when he could not touch the camera – and it was a great help to have Anna talk to him softly and explain what we were desperately trying too! Cannot wait until he can fully understand. When we had to leave him we were of course very sad. It will not be Monday soon enough. We left Donestk and came back to Gorlovka to have lunch and shop a bit. Anna took some interesting pictures of Jeff and I – I will make sure he downloads them on the site by tomorrow because I think you’ll enjoy. She commented to Vanya that she was looking for something interesting to place on Jeff’s head for a picture. If some of you remember the picture at my house of Rob with a piece of cabbage on his head you’ll understand how enjoyable it will be! After lunch we went to the department store – kind of like a mall with a bunch of small kiosk like shops. Found a few things to buy… We’ll go back tomorrow or Saturday for a few more things. It was a very nice afternoon. For dinner we made soup – not so good as it was from a package – but Anna decided we should have champagne and some awesome Raffaello candy for the first course. That made the soup taste much better! So now we are just sitting around and listening to Jeff snore – he must be quite satisfied! Tomorrow we will go to Torez and introduce Jenna Leeza to Anna (Babooshka). That will be very special.

Boys, I hope you have had a wonderful day. Anna has asked all about you and we found a special/cool thing for you two at the Department Store. I cannot tell you how much we miss you. Hope you have had a nice day and that you know how much we love you!! Tell everyone we said hello and that we cannot wait to get home! Again, I know everyone may get tired of us telling you all how much we thank you and love you and just feel so humbled by all you have done for us.

A special note for Pam and Paul. I do not even know how to tell you over so many miles that our hearts are with you and sure do hurt for you. We saw a paper from Swansboro and saw that Fred has passed away. You are in our thoughts and prayers. I know this must be such a difficult time for you. Cannot wait to hug you both and let you know how much we love you!

Sally, we are sure hoping and praying that you all are spared from Rita the hurricane. We have been trying to keep up with as much as we can without having a TV. Everyone please let us know what is going on there as it is a bit difficult to get on line here sometimes.

We love you all and cannot wait to get home (which I think you all know ) next week!

Quick Note

Added some new pictures. Plane tix are in our hands now (can't wait to use them). Less than a week now. More to come.

Week From Today!

Today was a trip, a real trip. We went to see Jenna Leeza early this morning. Her group was heading outside to play (it’s pretty awesome to be greeted by smiling, happy kids, saying “Leeza, Mama, Papa”, they all know). They were all bundled up as it was clear and cool today (perfect football weather). But, Jenna was still upstairs getting dressed, getting ready for us to take her into “town” to go ahead and get her passport pictures taken. She was a real trooper in the taxi, 5 of us crammed in there, she sat on my lap all the way there, Jennie called me a “kid hog”. The drive from the orphanage to “town” is pretty,…let’s just say, primitive. If she didn’t get car sick (which she didn’t) on this one, we should be home free. One of her caregivers rode with us and said (through Kostya of course) that Jenna didn’t understand why we didn’t take her when we left after each visit. I believe she thought this was it! I had practiced my Russian and everytime I would whisper, ‘tee-ochen krai-see-va-ya’ (you are so beautiful) or ‘ya-te-bya luy-bluy’ (I love you), she would get a sly little grin. We gave her a little costume jewelry necklace that she clutched in her hand the entire trip (I know, it only gets more expensive from here on out) along with one of the dolls we brought.

Once inside the Kodak Express place, we took her in another room for the photo and she got a little nervous and scared, but she listened to her caregiver and she did what she asked. She didn’t like it much, and we’ve got the pictures to prove it. After that, Kostya and I went to their bank to deposit our donation to the orphanage. It was another cultural education, but we’re pretty much done with running around in Torez. We should be able to take care of everything in Donetsk on Monday. We picked up the pictures and headed back, Jennie took the lap duty this time and Jenna smiled all the way back, I’m sure she saw things from a perspective she’s not accustomed to. Unfortunately, that was the extent of our visit as it was time for lunch and nap.

Next order of business, Lora and Ira took us to get kids’ clothes and strollers for the trip home. They are angels to our rescue. We finally found a place that had 2 of the small umbrella strollers left, and you guessed it, a his and hers! Then off to find the clothes, they knew exactly where to take us and we knocked it out in one stop. ***For the men, it’s not bad at all shopping with women who shop like men, you know what you want and where to get, get it and go.*** Sorry for the diversion, please don’t hold it against me. So we are set for kids stuff to travel with now. Maybe some diapers for Joseph and that’s it.

I hope Lora and Kenny don’t mind, but I have to plug their ministry, Cross Culture, Inc. She and her family have been so good to us, we will miss them terribly, but I feel our paths will cross again. Anyway, their ministry involves working with the abandoned babies at the baby hospital here in Gorlovka. They have established the church here that we have had the pleasure of attending. They also have a huge project in the works, they bought a huge kindergarten and are renovating it to include 7 apartments where families will foster children until they can be adopted. It is truly amazing what God can do, but remember, He owns the cattle on a thousand hillsides. I added their link in the ‘Links’ section, so please visit their website, as we have had the privilege to see the fruit of their labor and faithfulness.

Tomorrow morning, we will pick up Anna at the train station. She is Olga’s mother (the wife of Jennie’s brother, Rob). She will be coming all the way from Sevastopol, which is in Crimea. She’ll spend 2 days with us so it will be fun taking her to each orphanage during our regular visits. Can’t wait to see her.

Can’t stop thanking you guys enough for the encouraging words, we really do get strength and encouragement from them. One day when they are old enough to understand, Jenna and Joseph will see just how much love, prayer, and thoughtfulness was waiting for them before they ever got home!

Sally, we’re praying for you now as we saw the news this afternoon about Rita. Jeff E, if you can make it to Ukraine, I know you can make it to Swansboro, we’d love to have you for a visit. Mandy and Eddie, we took your suggestion to heart on the Dramamine. Cathy, thanks for all the ‘hood updates, it does help. Mom, Mary, and Char you’ll never know the extent of our gratitude, but families are families for a reason, thank you. Justin and Jacob, Mom and I are so thankful to have 2 men like you for our sons.

Week From Tomorrow!!

Okay, we take back anything we said last night about Lufthansa. Maybe the woman who was helping us was having a bad day…. We began our day by getting our tickets – Thank God!!! And, low and behold – we got on the very flight that was full as far as we were told. We are very grateful for that. Thank you for your prayers. After we got those things in order we had to wait until Edward got up from his nap in the afternoon to see him. He was so excited to see us (Dad, especially). The caregiver told us that he had been waiting for us to come. She took us back in the playroom and he saw us and came running. That was cool. His caregiver put on some cute clothes (no tights or pink roses) before we took him to another area to play. We got another glimpse at his tiny little legs. We just wanted to squeeze him he’s so cute. He was fascinated, as was Jenna Leeza, with a yellow bag I carry with us. He took everything out of the back pack and put it in the yellow bag and carried it around. Then he would take it out and put it back over and over. I hate to admit that he was running to us at one point and fell and bumped his poor little head (sorry Grandma’s, grandpa’s and Aunt Sally). We’ll try to make sure he doesn’t run again…… : ) After our time with us we had to give him back. We’re counting down the days until we do not have to do that anymore. Having such a short amount of time and being on someone else’s turf is hard as you all can imagine.

After returning home I had the pleasure of joining two super people, Laura and Ira, (and kids) to have a pedicure. It may be the last one for a while. They had the lady actually come to us which was nice. We tried to get Jeff to join the fun but I think he was having more fun keeping the kids company instead of the toe thing. He was a good sport though. Boys – you know your dad is bored to tears if he is joining me in such places! I know he cannot wait to get home and throw the ball, watch some manly man sports and eat ice cream with you both. That actually sounds like heaven to me, too!

So tomorrow we will be getting some things for the kids (like strollers and a few odds and ends) and then we’ll be getting ready for a visit from my sister in laws’ (Olga) mom from Sevastopol. That will be very nice to have her here and introduce her to both kids. I just hope she’ll survive the car ride! Again, thank you for all your thoughts and comments. It makes us feel like you guys are with us in a sense. To think we will not have to explain a lot of this journey because you all ready know! Sally, I know the football team must be a huge disappointment to you. We’ll send some of the guys from Swansboro and just say they are exchange students! Dad, it was good to talk to you last night – hope you are feeling better. Boys, we were so sorry not to have been able to get your call successfully. Sometimes the phones just don’t get good reception. We sure are counting the days, minutes and hours until we see you guys next week. I just hope we don’t squeeze you so tight that we can’t let go! We should be driving up Oyster Bay Road by late Wednesday night or early Thursday morning. Mary, in case I forget – could you call Animal House and tell them we’ll get Lilly on Friday? And Char – I need you to please take care of a couple bills – just email me personally or call me from our house and I will fill you in. Mary, Cathy and Pamela, thanks for your kind words. They mean a lot. Aunt Sally, you see the following of fans on this board who eagerly await your comments – I think you’ll have just enough time to construct your own website, Daily Musings from Aunt Sally. It is sure to be hit! You can post the link here. We love you all and cannot wait to be back home again. Good night sweet boys, we send our love and hugs and kisses to you! One more week!

Waiting...

Boy, what a difference a day makes in the weather. Today was rainy, overcast, and rather cool, the first time it hasn’t been sunny and warm since we’ve been here. We left for Torez earlier than usual, we took the copier and the rest of the toys and gave them to the Director and his wife. They seemed to be pretty happy with everything. Jenna was a little slow to warm up again today, I think she realizes something is about to change from all she’s ever really known and it seems to be affecting her. Bless her heart, if she only knew, but that’s hard to explain to a 3 yr old. Anyway, we had to stay inside because of the weather. Her group was nearby in the playroom, and every now and then, one would poke his or her head out the door and laugh, giggle, or wave. It’s so hard not to scoop them all up and head out the door. Jenna was mostly a Mama’s girl, as we ate pretzels, read books, and played with kukla (doll).

The timeline is starting to shape up now. Next Monday we pick up the court decree, race to get their new birth certificates, pick up the kids, get their passport pictures and then passports. We’ll take the overnight train that evening to Kiev, where on Tuesday, we’ll be going to get their medicals, to the NAC, and interview at the Embassy. The plan is to fly home on Wednesday, hopefully. Lufthansa has already hosed us, they were unable/unwilling/uncaring to change our ticket$, so looks like we’ll have to take KLM, still firming that up. After we get home, we don’t care if all the airlines go bankrupt (Lord, forgive us for our bitterness).

Boys, hope you’re having a good week, please don’t get tired of hearing how much we miss you. Almost there!

Quick Note

Added some pictures. Desperately trying to get our tickets changed for next week. More to come...

Missing our Boys

The best way to start the BLOG today is with John 11:40. If you believe, you will see the glory of God. Not only will I thank the writer John – but also Beth Moore for putting it in the perspective I needed yesterday while I marched through her Bible study. For many years I have prayed for an adopted child. After looking at a close friends Dossier – “Wow, no way would I ever complete such an intricate, immense, expensive bunch of documents. At least not in our own strength. To think that He had hand picked two children who were brother and sister – yet might not even know each other – in such a remote and far away place from NC…… To think we left in July with hopes of returning with these precious kids – only to be told to return and have to leave our boys again. I can only say this – and you would have to live it or know us intimately (at least I think) to know how difficult some of this journey has been in our human state. But He has shown us His glory in every step of the way. From the moment we decided, to our two boys agreeing to looking at Joseph Edwards picture and getting the Holy goose bumps and many tears….. It is all so good. Two of the most courageous boys I know are the two I saw for the first moment as Dr. K announced their arrival and showed me their sweet faces. Justin and Jacob have never complained and have prayed for these two since the beginning. In a sense – as Jeff may have commented as well, they have become orphans so we could bring two home. Don’t get me wrong – I know that Judy, Mary and Charlotte as well as the whole family have given them every single ounce of what they need and want. That goes without question. But a Mom misses her boys. There are sweet things they have done for and to me since the day that they were born and I miss it beyond all things comparable on any day of the week while I am here away from them. Just so you know sweet boys – that is enough of that for now. The next two most courageous people I know are our two additions. You already know the truth of that. And next let me just say, there is not a person in this world that I would have ever taken this leap of faith with besides my husband Jeff. And yes Sally, there are moments when we want to kill each other – but it is quick and “fleeting” as they say (plus we’re in a foreign country and who else would we talk too???). What I am trying to convey is that God’s glory is abundant in so many ways. Without all I know and feel comfortable with – well He brings it with a twist…. Today we went to church (again we were 5 minutes late to church which is 5 doors down). The message was still in Matthew and it was about suffering (what else?). It was awesome. He never ceases to amaze me. After church we sat with Dora and the other women for tea and cookies. Jeff is such a good sport because this was a typical “hen party” (a shindig but without men) and he was a dear. Dora turns 91 on Wednesday (the sweet lady with the apples from last Sunday). She told us all she wants is a man – so if there are any available by Wednesday that you know of – Jeff told her he would put in the personal ads, mature Ukraine woman, loves animals (remember the dog bite?). She laughed. Jeff asked her if she would like the ad to say she was 38 or 39 – she said to just tell the truth. It was lovely though. I gave her a scarf for her birthday. She wore it for a while and decided her old one was more comfortable. That reminded me so much of my grandmother.
We then went to see Eddie. Gosh, it is just such a bummer to not be able to just take him out. He looks tired and worn out lately. My mother’s intuition is telling me he is worn down by worry that we are not there ever day, a cold that is plain to see and just sharing a bedroom with 13 other kids. He tried real hard to be a trooper. When he was satiated with food and drink he laid his little head on Jeff’s shoe. He was so tired. We took him back upstairs and he did not even protest too much. Heart breaker.

To end the evening we were invited to a Babooshka buffet! There are two special Babooshkas – Tonya and Clava, and they cooked stuffed peppers and reneke (SP) and lots of other awesome things. There were about 15 people who were here who have made the time bearable and most times pretty awesome in Gorlovka. They have even been so helpful with paper work things in the city. It was really fun and reminded us of family times and get togethers at home. They all said how much they would miss us when we left. I thought, wow, me too. But that doesn’t preclude getting the heck home ASAP!!!!

So to end the day – I would trade all the chocolate in Ukraine to be home and start our new life. But He has shown Jeff and me both His handprints, His glory and that His plan is so much greater and so much sweeter than ours. God bless you all! Sweet dreams my boys and God only knows how much my heart misses you. Stay strong and courageous!!!

9 and Counting...

Counting down the days, thank you all for the kind words in your comments and emails, it really charges our “batteries”. Today, we went to see our daughter (couldn’t wait to say that) and I must admit, it did feel a little bit different. When we pulled into the driveway, her group was outside playing and we saw her at the fence with another little girl. I jumped out of the car and called her name and she seemed to get excited, and then it happened. Apparently, (from what Kostya was able to hear and interpret) one of the caregivers called her back and told her to ask for permission, it hurt her feelings so bad, she started crying (the first time we’ve seen her even come close to crying). We thought she had hurt herself on the fence or something before Kostya let us know what he had heard. Talking about the big bad mama-bear coming out in Jennie, needless to say, we were none to happy. The rest of our visit, she was very pensive and just not herself, but we made the best of it. In fact, the pink fingernail polish Jennie bought yesterday for her was a treat. She readily let Jennie paint her nails and then she returned the favor by painting Jennie’s thumbnail. I wouldn’t trade that sight for anything in this world. She said she will never wash that thumb again. Leaving was very tough, it’s too hard to rationalize why we have to leave her there now.

One of the other highlights though was we took about half of the toys today and gave them to the children in her group (about 15 of them). When we told the caregiver that we had them, all the children lined up and were extremely well behaved, but I could see the anticipation in their attention-starved eyes. Unexpectedly, the biggest hit was all the jump ropes, Kostya and I adjusted the ropes a little bit and they were so happy. We will take the rest on Monday along with the copier that was at the top of their need list.

To all of Oyster Bay, we’re very thankful for such a supportive neighborhood, I’m sure you’ll be seeing more toys in the yard (to our newest neighbor, Michael, we’ve already told them about the cool kid across the street). Thank you Kenny for your wonderful family, they have been such a blessing to us, I know how proud you must be of them. Mary Behan, the best tip I can give you is run a straightened coat hangar through, grab the buckle, and pull it back through, or, make David do it, but seriously, thank you for your kind words. The Brooke ladies of TX, Jeff E, Mandy&Eddie, Pamela&Paul, and all the grandparents, we feel your prayers as we get stronger each day now. Sally, someone used your name to post, you have never been at a loss for words (which we are actually thankful for). Cathy, Lilly wore the ballet outfit last year, she wants the Cat In The Hat costume this year.

Justin and Jacob, we loaned out Napolean Dynamite tonight, we’ll find out how to say “build a cake”, “delicious bass”, and “sweet jumps” in Russian for you. We did get “bucket head” translated for you. Love you, miss you, and hope you have a nice weekend.

Court Day.. and 4 Became 6!

This day will be forever etched in our hearts. At 2:39 this afternoon we became the parents of Jenna Leeza Brooks and Joseph Edward Brooks and Justin and Jacob have a new brother and sister! The delivery could not have gone smoother. We got to Donetsk at 1:00 and waited while our paper work was put in order, etc. The social worker from Donetsk was there and the Director and his wife of the Torez orphanage were also there. They are always very nice to us and so excited about Jenna becoming a part of our family. We walked into the judge’s chambers a little after two. A bit daunting I must say. Kostya had to interpret everything that was said. The judge asked Jeff to stand first and asked some general and then some not so general financial and personal questions. Then each representative from their respective orphanage did the same. In addition there is also a jury who is now part of this process. Ours consisted of two men who did ask a few questions regarding our family life, etc. Then it was my turn. Thank God I wore my “Secret” today (never let ‘em see you sweat!). He asked me I guess more “Mom like” questions. They asked how our boys at home felt about the process. I told him how we began the whole journey (in twenty words or less) about 16 months ago and that they were actually the ones who brought it up without knowing Jeff and I really had this on our hearts. Then he asked how we were going to bring them up – with four kids being a rather large family and all. When I told him about all of our family around and that I was also from a family of four kids (I’m not too terribly scarred : ) Just kidding Mom and Dad) he seemed satisfied. That was it. He read some of the conditions from our application regarding name changes, etc. and we were then officially the proud parents of four kids – Justin 11, Jacob 8, Jenna 3 and Joseph 2. So we are now officially the 6 j’s. Before we entered the courtroom we rehearsed and prayed and had everything laid out that we would request that the judge consider regarding the ten day wait. There was really no way around it. There is not one hardship, circumstance or reason at this point in any of the legal documents in Ukraine that will allow a judge to waive this. We were bummed, of course. But you know – it’s all good. It really is. We have a peace about it and we are just so relieved that this part is behind us now. The social worker and Director said some very supportive things on our behalf and in these situations that is half the battle (the next will be a 12 hour train ride with a two and three year old : )). So now we will pick up our court documents the 26th of September. Then we will get their birth certificates and take them with us finally to Kiev!!! We are hoping to return Thursday or Friday of that week. I never thought I would see this day many months ago. It felt so surreal today to know all of this has almost reached the day when all 6 of us will be together and all of our family and friends can meet these two new treasures. It is truly a miracle in many ways.

On a lighter note, today Jeff and I went shopping for Jenna’s orphanage. We bought a copier as they requested with extra paper. Then we went to this really cool shopping center and bought 30 coloring books, every pack of crayons that they had, side walk chalk, balls, dolls, cars, tea sets, legos, and 10 jump ropes. I probably missed a few things. All of these things were bought by my Sisters in Christ Supper Club and some really awesome friends (Harriet and Stacy). I cannot wait to show the kids all the stuff. We’ve added a picture of the stuff – unfortunately, we did not get to see the kids and I am not sure the judge would have appreciated posing for our blog. We also added a picture of where Joseph Edward sleeps. He sleeps in the last bed on the left in the back row. Kind of wild, huh? I can’t wait when it’s the kids turn to take shopping and pick up a few things for them. I have to confess I could not resist buying a bottle of pink nail polish as we walked through the store…..

So today has been a bit of a whirl wind. We are winding down on chocolate and a toast with some .40 cent beer. Our neighbor/landlady/savior when in need of American things just sent her daughter down to see if we wanted some chocolate fudge cake! A girl after my own heart….. Gotta go – would hate to hurt her feelings : ).
Good night sweet boys! Mom and Dad love you so much. We can’t wait to hug you so very tight and kiss your sweet faces! Friends and family – thank you all so much for your daily encouragement. It is truly awesome to read your comments and just feel you all cheering us on. We could not have done this without all of you. Blessings!

Tomorrow is Court Day

Today was tough knowing that Ophelia had left her mark on Swansboro. Talked to Mom today and she said most of downtown was flooded and it was just a never-say-die storm. We certainly pray that everyone is OK and that the damage was minimal. I’m guessing Dad’s dock is gone if the water got that high. It hurts being here and not at home to clean up. Aunt Mary, I’m sorry you had to spend your birthday couped up, riding the storm out.

Well, today was Donetsk day, off to see Joseph Edward this morning. When we finally caught up with him, we helped get him dressed for outside, just know we didn’t pick out his clothes (if you look at today’s pictures) we just helped put them on, we didn’t care. I wish I could explain how his face lights up when he sees us now, it just leaves no doubt that he and Jenna Leeza were always meant for our family. The weather has been so awesome, we always immediately head outside. He wanted to be held most of the time, but did get down some to play with the ball and the bubbles. Then came the coup-de-tat, we affectionately call Jennie’s backpack the “Blue Bag of Bountiful Booty”, and they know it, always peeking in it for ‘what’s next’. The pretzels, cheese, and water were all it took to fully captivate him. We made sure we had enough for 3, so I believe we topped him off. But bless his heart, he’s so small; he’s got a lot of catching up to do.

Susan, it was nice of you to call, sorry we were asleep. Thank you Dianne, Mandy, Sally, and Mary Behan for your encouraging words and updates, it definitely helps. Pray for God’s will tomorrow at 2:00pm our time (7:00am your time) as we’ll be standing in front of the judge in Donetsk, asking somehow for an immediate execution. But either way, knowing our boys are OK is the greatest gift of all and gives us strength to take whatever they throw at us. Love to all.

Quick Note

Hope everyone faired well during Ophelia. We are thinking of all of you and pray all is well. Read the Daily News and sounds like quite a bit of flooding downtown. Added some pictures of Joseph Edward today. Thanks for calling Mom and looking out for the boys.

Jenna Leeza Today

Happy Birthday Aunt Mary! We got you a hurricane! Didn’t this happen a few years ago after a 30th birthday party? Hope your day was special despite the weather! Judy, thank you for adding the sweet things the boys said to you the other night. It really does our heart good to hear their funny humor and that they are well. Thank you also for being so encouraging to us. I only wish we could have the kind of breakfast that you made them Monday morning before school! Mom – it is best to call around 3 your time because we are usually home then and have the phone on, etc.

Today we went and saw Leeza. As we walked inside she must have heard a car and she was in the second story window excitedly waving to us. I know she wonders why we are not there everyday. It is just too much travel and money for right now. I wish there was a way to convey this to a three year old – however – she’ll be home soon forever with us and Edward and the boys. We had a great visit today. She was so sweet. She was a Momma’s girl today. Not sure why, but I sure loved that she was just content to be in my lap and hang out. We brought a ball and kicked that around for a while and she laughed hysterically. We took a couple movies and Kostya translated what she was saying in one of them. “We are playing with the ball!”, was what she shouted to her buddies. Last time she yelled, “Hey I have my own water!” Her voice is so cute. I have also noticed that the more we are with each child the similar mannerisms that they have. They both kind of suck in their lips when they are in thought or the middle of an important task. They both tilt their heads – but to different sides when they are shy or not getting what they want. They both cry when we have to put something away – so I guess they are like their two big brothers, too! : ) Edward has the longest fingers I have seen on a child. They are so pretty. He also puts two fingers in his mouth when he is tired. I love that. The orthodontist won’t but it is precious. Leeza, on the other hand puts her head in your chest and hides her face. But when she is happy she smiles a lot like Justin used to when we took pictures of him. She loves her bubbles and is very into doing everything herself. However, she wants us to show her one time and then let her try. She is a bit more patient than her little brother – but having two other boys we know this is standard M.O. Each day each child wants to take something we brought (to play with or use during the visit) when we leave. Edward took his sippy cup yesterday. Today Jeff took her to pick apples in a small orchard at the orphanage and they filled up a bag with Tweety on it. Here, bags are a hot commodity. If you want a bag you pay extra. The only reason that we have so many is because the people in this town know we are Americans and they will give them to us most times for free. Well, little Leeza was not going to part with the bag or the apples. When we took her upstairs she ran to her locker to put her new bag in it. When we leave it seems that she and Edward both are sadder and sadder. Jeff and I hate that. Just keep trying to look forward though……

We had an awesome lunch today with Olga, Nikita and Kostya. Borshch and Bleeni, my favorite. The salads are good too. Olga Moffat – I sure hope you can teach me to make some of the stuff here when we get home. I have had fun actually trying to make a few things here. Jeff seems impressed so I guess it must be good.

We are going to do some shopping for the orphanage in Torez this week. We found a copier today and we are going to buy some toys, too. And Sally, I guess I could be a Stepford wife – except I am not sure they get homesick? If after we know for sure how much longer we have – I may take a peek in a shoe store. But then I would have to take private lessons in how to walk without breaking my neck in them. Not sure I have the balance these women seem to have. Maybe if the chance arises you can tell Beth Moore, who I just love, that I am doing the Fruit of the Spirit Bible study while I am HERE! It is called, How to Live Beyond Yourself. Now if that is not ironic – or of course His plan – I don’t know what is. One of the days I was crying in my soup, I opened up my book and it was all about having peace. It helped so much. So tell Beth – if you ever have a chance – there is a girl in Ukraine who appreciates her and being equipped with the ability (because of her study) to Live Beyond Myself most days.
Well, I guess it is time to close. For all of you who are coming or in the process, bring a deck of 52 cards to pass the time. Most decks here are 36. (Thank God, again, for our landlady!). And know that time does have a way of standing still as Kostya says. Our prayers are with you all. We miss you guys! Mandy – the object of moving was to be CLOSER and WARM – not farther and colder!!

Good night my sweet angels. I love you, Dad loves you and we will see you soon. We found some Russian Ramon noodles for you and we thought you’d think that was cool. Blessings and kisses and hugs!!

Quick Note

New pictures added, hope everyone is weathering the storm OK, we're thinking of you. More to come about our day. Again, thanks Mom for the updates, it really helps.

Edward's Bubble Day

This morning, our landlady and her interpreter/right hand took us to a real supermarket in Donetsk. Jennie actually felt very American, albeit for just one morning. They were so nice to do that for us and they have been very helpful.
Later in the afternoon, we actually went back to Donetsk to see Edward. No hissy fits this time, he was wonderful. We took some new toys, ball, blocks, and of course the bubbles. We also learned our lesson from last time, we took enough food and water for 2 kids, which seemed to keep him very happy! He said mama clearly today, and papa, and ball. He is just all boy, there is no doubt. When we took him back inside to his group, one of his caregivers gave us 2 framed portraits of him and some wallet sized pictures as well. They are absolutely adorable (yeah, I know dads aren’t supposed to say adorable, but they are). The one thing that gets me every time though, is when we see his group, all the kids say, Papa, Mama, over and over and it truly is heartbreaking.
Some pictures of Edward have been added. We hope Ophelia doesn’t do any damage. Mandy, stay away from Canada. Lori, we’ll try to take a picture for you. Claire and Bryan, congratulations on your new baby. Aunt Mary and Uncle Jason, thanks for weathering the storm with our boys (whom we miss incredibly, terribly, miserably bad). Also, Aunt Mary, be careful getting out of bed tomorrow, don’t break a hip. Thanks Mom for your emails, they brighten my day.
A little short winded today, looking towards Friday and all it holds in store for us. Pray for our boys, our homesickness, and the other families who undertake this journey. Paka for now!

Bubble Monday

I know you all have seen the pictures of the day. What an awesome visit we had. When we entered the orphanage and were taken upstairs to where Leeza was playing her caregiver and buddies said, hey it’s your momma and papa! She got up and ran with her arms out to me and jumped in my arms. It was the cutest moment. Then the caregiver told her to put on her outside shoes and some tights. She ran to her locker and grabbed her stuff with the biggest smile on her face. We then went outside and shared some bubbles with her. She thought it was pretty cool when Jeff blew a huge one and it floated off. She also took my liter of water – it was like gold to her. Her group was playing a few yards away and she yelled to them, “Hey, look, I have my own water!” Kostya was sitting near by doing some work and looked up and started laughing. She was very animated today and talked a lot. Very cute!

We waited to hear about our paper work and apparently we have three days until our court day now. It has been moved to Friday. We are pretty down about that. But we have a few ideas we are kicking around and will let you all know when we know for sure. Things are pretty stoic here right now in some ways due to the political climate. I am sure you all are hearing more than we do.

I have been running the past few days in the a.m. so that has been awesome. Today there were tons of others out too so that was good. Jeff has been able to go the gym. I don’t feel quite comfortable going there yet so I have been improvising here. Not bad – very interesting – but not too bad. We may design our own work out video while traveling in a foreign country in our spare time.

So being a bit down in the dumps and getting a little cagey feeling I visited our American neighbor upstairs. Oh, what a treat that was! Great company, CNN, English books and magazines! And of course something I could kick myself for not bringing – peanut butter and microwave popcorn. What an angel! She even has the beat on the street when in need of sliced wheat bread and cheddar cheese. It seems so trivial, I know. But really, it made this rainy day so much brighter.

I pray that all of you are safe and sound with the hurricane coming. It seems to have been downgraded so that is such a relief. It is very difficult to be here knowing that – and just being away from the boys and our family and friends. It’s tough. Home sickness sure has been seeping in a lot lately! Please keep your encouraging emails coming. We get on each morning and read to start our day and it sure does help our hearts. We love you guys! I think I’ll design a t-shirt that says I left half my heart in North Carolina! Take care everyone. As tough as this is – I think of two little children who a life that has had very little joy and very little love (with hugs and kisses) up until the last few weeks. I hope my sweet boys will think of this when they miss us. As hard as this test is in our lives the blessings will far out weigh all of the heartaches now. God bless you! Kisses and hugs to you. (HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MY DEAR SWEET SISTER AND HER HUSBAND! I miss talking to you all the time!)

New Pictures

Added some new pictures, they sure brightened our day. More to come later.

Slow Sunday

Another “time stands still” day today. We did not get to go see the children today, but tomorrow starts out with a trip to Torez. We did go to church here today, it is the church that our landlady’s family started here in the neighborhood. It was incredible to see and be a part of their worship service, when you take away all amenities and distractions, ie there were no big screens, no band, no piano, no organ, no fancy clothes, no pews, no podium, no ushers, no candles, but I’ll tell you what was there, the Holy Spirit was in abundance! We shared a table with some first year English students from the university who were kind enough to translate a majority of the service for us. For Jennie and I, we have seen God’s hand at work all along the way from things big and small, well, here’s another one for you, if you’ve noticed our Links section of our blog (look to the right), Matthew 18 has been our call, you guessed it, today’s message was Matthew 18 in it’s entirety. We were both in awe, no other way to put it. When all things are stripped away, your comfort, your routine, your family and friends, your sense of security, when you answer His call to surrender, He meets you there and grabs your hand. After church, we spoke with the youth who were years ahead of their time. Pamela and Paul, they would get gold stars and smiley faces. We also had the privilege to meet a precious 91 year old woman, Dora, who emptied her pocketbook full of apples and pears into our hands. She kept pulling them out so I asked her if she had the whole tree in there and she laughed.

Boys, Nanny told us about the games, we are proud of you. Please call us when you can so we can hear it first hand. We need to hear your voices. Hope Ophelia minds her own business and leaves the ‘Boro alone. Love to all.

Quick Note

Just returned from church, it was wonderful, more to come. Added some new pictures from yesterday. And, also, has anyone heard if Claire and Bryan have had their baby? Will update all later tonight. Love you all!

Saturday...Diversion

Happy birthday Sondra! Hope you have a special day!
Today was a bit of a slow day. The whole town was celebrating their 62 year of independence from the occupation of the region and their 226th birthday. The streets were closed off and so we were not able to see the kids. Everyone was too excited to celebrate in Ukraine – we did not have the heart to push the issue : ). We did get to meet a lot of the neighborhood kids today. Dima is our tour guide of sorts (he is the landlady’s son and a really sweet kid). He teaches Jeff the Russian words for games the kids are playing and ice cream and all sorts of important info we need here in the “hood”! His big sister Leana came over today while I was running. I was very home sick today. Not hearing English and just being a foreigner can have it’s down points. I was thinking while I ran that I sure would like to have some sort of American something….. Well guess what? She brought a basket of fresh baked banana muffins (just like mom used to bake) with real American margarine. I was so excited! And so very thankful. I think I was still drooling when I told her so later. There is a playground right in front of our apartment and it is so nice to hear the kids playing and having a good time. Today Dima brought his buddies Daniel and Leana (not his sister). They were jumping around and having a good time. Came in for a moment to watch Spiderman with Nikita and Kostya. They like to block the door so we can’t leave (they like to get Jeff to throw them around and jump on his back). We gave them all 2 gryvna’s so they could go get some ice cream. They were gone like a shot. Sure made us sad – we wished we were giving Justin and Jacob some too.

Jeff and I walked around the city a bit and picked up some food – no, still don’t get the abacus thing – but the lady knows us now and is very helpful! They had some beautiful chalk drawings on the pavement of pictures describing their celebration. We’ll download pics tomorrow. Then we came back and watched The Incredibles – yes, we are reaching here – but the other stuff we had wasn’t quite as cute.

Kostya and Olga then took us downtown to the celebration. Wow – it was huge – like 10 Mullet Festivals combined. But the venders sold the same thing – just balloons and super expensive kid attracting stuff. The high light of the night was their fire works. I have seen lots of fire works – and some of the best were because of Jeff, his brother Jason and my brother Rob’s expertise in such things – and I can’t leave out my boys – but the show here was absolutely incredible. We were literally so close that we stood under them. Olga and Ira and I were laughing because it felt like a ride at Six Flags or something. We’ll also put some pics up tomorrow.

Another interesting fact about Ukraine is that they have not been trained in the art of putting on a “Hoedown” a “Shindig” or a “Hootenanny”. Kostya was very intrigued about the difference between the three and asked us to explain until he fully felt the essence of each occasion. So tonight, because there was awesome food we told him it began as a shindig, then we moved into the hoedown phase because dancing and singing began on stage. Then after the fireworks show and many people who had partied all day (and became a little roudy as a result) enjoyed themselves – well, we had a full fledged Ukrainian Hootenanny on our hands. Great visual for our student.

And now we are sitting here wondering how the heck our kids did at their games – please someone – we’re dying ova’ here! Let us here from you! Boys – I hope you had an awesome game and that you can imagine your dad biting his finger nails all day because he was so bummed he couldn’t be there! I pray you both know we have thought and prayed for you all day. We love and miss you! We have something special for you though that I think you’ll like. Kisses and hugs to our two awesome sons!

Sally, thank Marie for that direct line – today was a bit tough but it was sure comforting to know that everyone is still holding us up! Rob, it was good to hear from you! We got what you requested but now we have to go and buy more : )! Did you ever find Jacob’s shoe? Ruby, I sure do miss our morning runs. When I went yesterday and today I was so happy. Judy, thank you for having our sweeties! You are the best! Mom and Dad, I miss my mommy and Daddy! Can’t wait to see you guys and Sondra and John. This has brought back flashbacks when you guys went to Germany. Mary and Char, words can never describe our gratitude for what you are doing with our precious treasures. It is beyond words – we love you guys so much. And Cathy, thank you for your precious thoughts. Say hi to Mr. Blue. Hi Pam and Paul and everyone else! Could someone pray for a TV to appear???!! Just kidding…. We love you all. Boy have we had time to really ponder and know just how very blessed we are. Good night my family and friends – Please give us the scoop on the boys!

Walking Around Donetsk

Today was a slow day. I’m sure you’ve picked up on the fact that because of travel distances, we have to alternate days between kids, and today was Edward’s turn. It is hard to miss a day with each one, but that will get better real soon. We got to Donetsk about 9:30 and Jennie and I went up to his group’s room by ourselves (they recognize us now and so does Edward). They were being visited by the medical staff so we helped dress him to go outside and play. It is surprising at this stage that he is so happy to see us, and he says Papa, Papa! After being outside for a little while, we got to experience a world class hissy fit, yes, little Edward has some lungs on him. He was hungry and we gave him some crackers, but we ran out and he wasn’t all too happy about it. In fact, an Italian family was there visiting their son and through communication by best means possible, he offered me the rest of a muffin to give to him. Well, he ate all that and wanted more! By that time, his group was outside (so incredibly cute, and how they look out for each other is amazing, true survival instinct) so we had Kostya interpret a conversation with the caregiver in order to find out how they console him (with thoughts of our impending train/plane/automobile rides looming ahead). After a while, we left and took a walk around the city. When we got back to Gorlovka, we had a nice lunch outside and then I actually went running with Jennie through one of their park areas.

Thanks to all for your comments and concern for Leeza’s chickenpox, she should have time for it to run it’s course by the time we travel. Also, Sally, you did do a great job and we’ll have to double your pay next summer. The many kind words are so encouraging, and one day they’ll read them and know how many people were praying for them all along the way. Aunt Char and Aunt Mary, I can’t thank you enough for watching our most precious treasures. Til tomorrow, God Bless you all.

*As a side note, if you want to email us so that it is not part of the blog, use jeff@phorjaze.com

Football...not futbol.

For my boys, Justin and Jacob, Dad and Mom are so sorry we have to miss your games tomorrow and the Pop Warner night at the High School game tonight. If you listen close from the east, you’ll hear us cheering for you (whether you like it or not)! I woke up this morning at 4:15 because I had a dream I was helping you put your pads on before the game. Always know, we are right there with you and are so proud of you. Do your best, hold nothing back, and never quit.

For the community, know that people like Tim Laspada, Matt and Liz Schott, Andy Miller, and about 45 young men have been working hard to lay the ground work for building a football tradition in Swansboro, so be sure and support these guys, and if you see #50 and #57, cheer a little extra til we get back.

Disclaimer

I apparently made a mistake with regard to the 10 day waiting period. I understood that we could be taking care of other business while waiting the 10 days, but that is not the case. Essentially, everything is on hold during that period. Also, for prospective adopting families, please bear with us and realize this is not an “official” source of information.

Leeza Day

It is early morning for most of you who have been keeping up with us. Your emails have been such a treat to read first thing when we are getting ready for a new day. Of course I have learned to put my mascara on after I read as many tears flow – but they are good tears! Such encouragement and strength is so evident in them and it is passed on to us! We got a call today from Nanny! Jeff was smiling ear to ear when the phone rang and it was his Mama (Justin, Jacobs, Leeza and Edwards Babooshka!). Thank you all for all you are doing for us!

On a lighter note today I thought I would give you all a few cultural tidbits. One of my favorite is the flowers. Everyone has flowers in their house, outside their house, or they are buying them to take to someone. If you give flowers the tradition is to give an uneven number unless they are funeral flowers. But honestly, you see flower shops everywhere you go. I think that is pretty cool. Sometimes we forget how special it is to get them and how they brighten things up. So now on to the store experiences. We have tried our luck at shopping a few times. We know how to say “how much or how many” and “that or this” but when I rehearsed the other day and told Jeff I would say it all in Russian this is what I did; I walked in the store and said, “Um, can I have two of them there waters please (or something to that effect)?” Don’t forget to add the American hillbilly accent. Later Jeff and I almost pee peed in our pants because we laughed so hard. Then yesterday, we needed some fruit, I did use my “attempts” at Russian (silly americanca)– she understands – and then she brings out her abacus. An abacus? I had no idea. I just handed her some gryvnas and let her make the change. Most people here usually just show us a calculator with the amount. We have also had the experience of being pulled by the militia men. One of our taxi drivers (Mario Andretti) went too fast. Their police men stand on the side of the road and point a wand like radar gun. If they point to you to pull over you have to. Then you pay a fine and you’re on your way. At first, in Donestk, I actually thought it was just a baton and that the people on the highway were super obedient. There I go again. And last, I have to tell you that the women are beautiful here. They have the longest legs I have ever hoped for. And there is something about the Babaooshkas we see. Scarves on their heads and lines engraved in their faces. Their eyes seem to look right into you. They have something so endearing to me that I just want to walk up to them and give them a hug. When we do walk by and say hello they always smile very kindly and you know they mean it. The language is also very beautiful too. I love to watch people when they talk because it makes their face and lips even more beautiful.

Today as we rode by winding farm lands of freshly picked sunflowers my thoughts were brought back to a time almost 16 months ago. We sat at dinner and we were talking about mission work and how we could, as a family, do something together. It was our two sons who offered up adoption. Although that had been on Jeff’s and my heart for some time we wanted to hear what they felt. I know my dear sweet sons that you have been so brave without us there. I know when we began this process that it never crossed your minds how difficult it would be – because we did not even know. I know when we return it will be a change for you both to share with us. But just know that when we come home, I pray we are never separated as long as we have been again! At least not until you go to college. I cannot wait to introduce you both to these two. I believe you are really going to find them endearing and fall in love with them.

We did see Leeza today. She was a bit under the weather as she has chicken pox. (Sally, there is no DQ here and when we tried to offer her a cookie she turned it down) She was still all smiles and yet sad when we had to go. Parting really is such sweet sorrow. I asked Kostya to please tell her we loved her and we were really coming back until we could take her out of there forever. We hope after our court hearing that maybe we can. We’ll see. Pray, pray, pray for that please. Tomorrow we will see gentle little Edward. Sisters in Christ Supper Club – we are buying a copier for the orphanage in Torez and some outside toys. I have kept my promise to stay out of shoe stores. That is a feat in itself as the women here have some pretty stylish amazing shoes!

Last, I just want to share that a sweet boy named Nikita shared his birthday fireworks with us two nights ago. It was a 15 shot box and I can truly say it was fantastic. Not sure if they have those in SC! All the stars were out and it was a beautiful night (chilly) night. He was so excited and so animated. It made me miss my two sweeties more – but it sure was a great end to a long day. Now that I have written a novel I’ll end just saying I love all of you guys so much. I cannot tell you the appreciation of things we have now big and small in this special place + the circumstances we experience each day. It’s amazing and I pray Jeff and I both will never forget. We hope to be home the week of the 20th. It will most likely be the weekend. Keep praying for us! Blessings to you guys! Thanks again for your comments.

Paperwork Milestone

Well today was a “short” day in comparison to the others, we actually made it “home” by 4:30. We were to start at 8:00, but Kostya was doing some of our paperwork, so we waited til about 9:00 then it was off to Torez. At the Social Worker’s office, she, Kostya, and the orphanage director were able to finish up all Leeza’s documents. Due to time, we weren’t able to see her today, obviously a disappointment, but we had to get to Donetsk in time to finish Edward’s. So same situation there, Social Worker’s office then off to make a court date with the judge! The sheer magnitude of paperwork (doubled because of 2 orphanages) required to get to this point is astounding, but Kostya is incredible and misses no details. They only have hearings on Tuesdays and Fridays, so our date is Tuesday, the 13th (wonderful news!).

We then went to see Edward for a little bit, but his group was napping (around 3:00 and they get up at 4:00). We waited outside while Kostya worked the phone in order to get our package to the NAC in Kiev (he sends it via the train and one of his partners picks it up). But while we were waiting, Edward’s caregiver must have seen us and she brought him outside to us, way before we expected (so nice of her!). We were surprised when we realized it was him, she put him down and he ran across the parking lot to me with his arms up so excited. I think my heart left a big puddle right then and there, another blessed moment.

So basically, our paperwork is done now, it is on its way to Kiev for the NAC approval, and then back to here so we can take it to court on Tuesday. Now for the change in rules, up until about 2 weeks ago, there was a mandatory 30-day wait period after court that was typically waived, ie an immediate execution. But now, it is only a 10-day wait, but no immediate executions are possible (kinda bad news). However, during that time, we will be getting the birth certificates taken care of as well as their passports.

Oh yeah, for their birth certificates, we have decided to call Edward, Joseph Edward and Elizabeth will be called, Jenna Leeza (they call her Leeza at the orphanage). Our Russian is only good enough to buy some basic things and exchange

Getting to Know Us Day

It is 10 pm here and we just walked in the door from a very long day. It is so hard to articulate the many things we experience here from minute to minute. We wake up, we rush to meet the driver, we spend 40 minutes in a car to Donestk. We always have to go to the government office first for paper work – then to the orphanage (but we have to see the Director first as well). Then we spend too few precious moments with one special little boy. Back to Director, back to gov. office then off to find a cab driver who will brave the truly brutal ride to Torez. The roads are crazy with tons of pot holes and a really crazy windy road. Then a meeting with the next Director and finally, once again some precious time with another sweet little treasure. Hopefully that will help to put some of our long days in perspective…..

Today the Director let us immediately go to Edward’s “groupa” to see him. When we walked outside all of his buddies yelled, Edwardo, mama! Papa! Mama! Papa! He turned around and smiled a sweet four toothed grin. We were able to walk the grounds with him and let him walk around and touch the leaves and trees. He must take after Christopher a bit because sticks and leaves are very cool. He loved my heart locket as all kids do. He loves Jeff. He truly has taken to him and touches his head to his shoulder while making a very contented loud sigh and grabs him around his neck. It is unbelievable. I only wish I could articulate it all in a journal. He seems to be very gentle and very kind hearted. A woman who was there with her own new treasure gave him a cookie. If you could have seen the look in his eye – a cookie is a precious thing to them. Well, one was good. Then he went running back to her after we thought he had forgot (what were we thinking?!). She gave him two more before I could grab them. He tried to eat them both whole. I know that Sally and the Grandparents are going to be mad but I took the other one and threw it in the woods. He actually gobbled them and started burping and almost choking (so please, no admonishing : )). After about 45 minutes we had to leave him. He did get a little upset and it was very hard to hand him back to his care giver. That is a very hard thing to have to do. The only comfort we can draw here is that the orphanage is very, very nice. It is obvious that being in the city gives them many more opportunities than others, a blessing for him and for us.

Then little Miss “Leeza” as they call her. The Director is a very nice man who has a heart for the kids. While Kostya was talking with the other staff members he quietly wisked us off upstairs to see her. They were all napping but he was very excited. He took us on a quick tour of the place where she site when she eats, where she plays and then of course where he thought she was asleep. She was laying on her back with her eyes kind of sleepy but open. I walked up to her bed and looked down and she smiled and lifted her arms up. So, so sweet. We took her out in the hall and talked quietly as the other children slept. After a few minutes they all got up and walked out, put on their clothes while helping others who could not, and then went to the bathroom. It was an incredible sight to see them all helping each other. They were also so sweet to Leeza. They were shaking her arm as if she did not know, “Voy Mama, Papa Leeza!” Some were jumping up and down. It was a heart wrenching experience. Both places had about 10 kids that Jeff and I both could have scooped up to share with all of Swansboro (and Texas). We took her down to the office with the Director and he left us. Jeff had her laughing and kissing the window (which she thought was absolutely hilarious). There were some boys outside playing soccer in the yard and she loved watching them. She interacted with us a lot. She went from whispering to talking but unfortunately we have no idea what she was saying! She kissed us and hugged us and the Director and his wife were very happy and excited that Leeza had a family. When it was time to go, she waved Paka (bye bye) to them and hugged Jeff’s neck. The lady said, you want to miss your dinner and go? She hugged even harder. Unfortunately, the woman had to tell her that she could not leave with us yet but that we were coming back. In the hall we leaned down and she kissed us both a million times. Kostya was walking (which is running in America) and I had to turn around with Jeff and get one more.

Oh such precious little hearts. Can you believe there are so many children who live under these conditions? It is really hard to comprehend the magnitude of it. This experience has been worth every hour we ride in a car. Every mile we walk, every missed meal (we at least do have dinner, Olga, Kostya’s wife has made some awesome things for us). Every Marshooka (I would not recommend it ) we ride, and well you get the picture. I just wish that you all could be here and be a part of this experience. We love your comments – with no tv and no phone or radio it sure makes our day! Kisses and hugs to my two sweet boys! And thank you all for keeping us lifted up. It is the only thing that keeps us going! God bless!

Oh Yeah, Happy Labor Day!

We were here 4th of July also, hopefully all holidays will be at home from here on out. New Photos and hope everyone had a safe weekend.

Meeting Day!!!

I will have trouble putting into words today’s events (all good so please read ahead), but let me preface what I want to write with the following, much of what is said in this journal is to keep our friends and family up-to-date all along our journey, but, more importantly, it will also serve as an archive for our new children to read many years from now. We tend to hide some of our heightened emotions behind veiled attempts at humor and mundane daily activities, so with that said…

…after another sleepless night, we left Gorlovka at 7:30 this morning. Kostya arranged for a driver to take us to Torez and Donetsk. So after an 1 ½ hour drive (“drive” is kind, it was a harrowing, white knuckle dash, with some minor brake problems mixed in), we arrived at the Social Worker’s office in Torez. She was so nice and immediately began telling us (through Kostya’s translation) about Elizabeth (they called her Leeza), how sweet and affectionate she was. She also began giving us her history and some of Edward’s. No details here, but no child deserves that and I can assure you, they’ll never have to worry about that again. It was obvious the staff had a heart for this girl. So our hearts went to pounding as you can imagine, so after a few questions and minor paperwork, we were off to the orphanage. It was extremely remote and the ride was quite bumpy, but comfort was not on our minds. When we pulled in, it was actually rather nice, set among many trees. The playground was in front and I saw an older girl walking hand in hand with a little girl with a red sweater, a multi-colored dress and blue tights, I knew it was her from her picture but I didn’t want to get too excited. How could I not, etched forever in my heart and mind are the very first moments I first laid eyes on Justin and Jacob, and now her. These are the moments that God graciously gives us and makes life all that it is. We went inside and met the Director and his wife along with the other Social Worker. They were so nice and so excited that “Leeza” would now have a “MaMa” and “PaPa”. We talked inside a “get to know you room”, and after some personal questions, they brought her in. Sure enough, it was the little girl I saw outside! She immediately got in Jennie’s lap and was so incredibly sweet. All the paperwork, all the travel, all the prayers had lead to this very meeting. We gave her a plush purple elephant and a bunny blanket and she would not let go of them. She readily let me hold her and the feeling of her wanting to be held was overwhelming. She opened up more and more and was very excited about one of the books we brought for her. We could only spend about 45 minutes with her because we still had to go to Donetsk. We hated to say goodbye, but we will be back tomorrow, and the next day……

On to Donetsk, the roads got a little better and we got there about 2:00. Donetsk is a fairly large city and is quite nice. We went straight to the Social Worker’s office and answered some questions there as well. The orphanage was actually within walking distance so off we went. The building and grounds were very nice and clean. The Director asked us to come back at 3:00 because Edward’s group was still napping (she was afraid if we woke him and he was crying, we might not want him ) and they would be up at that time. Kostya went back to the Social Worker’s building to make some copies, so Jennie and I waited in the playground area. At about 3:15, we went back up to meet him in their very large music room. They brought him in and he came right to me and got in my lap, I was stunned, but he was so gentle and easygoing. He was carrying a truck and wanted to play, so we jumped on the floor and started playing. He smiled and laughed easily, we gave him his toys that we brought with us and he began turning the pages in the book and was fascinated by our camera. We only had a few minutes with him, so we went back to the Director’s office to discuss paperwork, any health issues, etc. When we told her we had no doubt, she gave in and let us go to their group storybook time to see him some more. There were about 15 little faces waving at us saying Mama, Papa. That will bring perspective to your life real quick. After playing some more, we had to leave to get back to the Notary in Gorlovka to get the paperwork system in gear. We asked her to wait til 6:00 so we could get there and behold, she had 4 people in her office, so we waited til 7:00. A notary in Ukraine is a full fledged lawyer, not like in the US. We made it back to Kostya’s apartment at 8:00 where Olga had prepared an awesome dinner for us.

Lots of ups and downs to come I’m sure, but God is good and we are resolved to take one day at a time. Thanks to all the comments, Sally especially, and also, Jeff E, we do remember you and think about you often. Uncle Jason and Aunt Mary, thanks for getting the boys and taking them out. Uncle Rob and Aunt Olga, Nichole will never stop talking now. Mom, we miss you, keep the rocking chairs warm. Aunt Char, your “sentence” starts tomorrow, we can never thank you enough. And Boys, most of our lost sleep has been over missing you. Our hearts aren’t whole without you. Susan, John, Pete, and Sondra we send our love.

Moving Day Continued...

Well, it sure is nice to be in our own place! We can listen to music or walk around a bit and not feel like we don’t have a little private space. Not that we did not have the best host and hostess – but trust me, it’s hard being in someone else’s home in another country. I thought you all may find a few of the following things interesting – I sure did. Mary and Jason – this is your Thursday night of Survivor!  Just think, you buy a nice bottle of wine to relax and OH NO! No cork screw. Shucks, what do you do? Well, we don’t know what anyone else would do but we used a pair of scissors. It worked like a charm. And for all the domestic Goddesses in the audience – our washer is also a dryer. Even our facilitator was perplexed when we told him we dried our clothes in the washer. But remember – our apartment owner also lives in America and must have the scoop on needed necessities in Ukraine. We bought groceries today, another interesting cultural experience. While the food is usually found in the store all paper goods and washing products are in an entirely different store upstairs. But everything we bought was very comparable to what we would find at home – we even found TIDE to wash our clothes. The tradition here is to also take off your shoes before entering a person’s house. I sure wish that would become a tradition in the Brooks’ home. Everyone walks here where ever they go – and so their shoes get dirty – hence – they take them off at the door.

We went walking around the town this afternoon and learned why the town was called Gorlovka. It was named after an engineer, Gorlov, who discovered charcoal here and made it one of their major resources. A picture with his statue will be included with today’s entry.

Well, that is all the news we have for today. Our apartment is in front of the playground and we have the pleasure of hearing children playing and running around. It sure is nice to hear them having a good time. Kostya says that tomorrow is the day to get serious and begin our journey. I cannot even imagine what it will be like. We sure covet your prayers for our trip to the children’s respective orphanages and just the general things surrounding the day. Jeff and I both have no idea what to expect – besides the fact that Elizabeth is in a remote area and it is maybe not such a well populated city. I guess as far as taxi’s and buses it will take a little patience to get to and from. Pray for our first meeting and for us to take one step at a time.

And my sweet boys, oh how we love and miss you. We prayed for you both before dinner. This is a hard time for you I know – but you hang in there and know that this experience is good and we know it will be awesome when we return. You two are in our hearts every minute of the day!!!!!!!XXXXOOOOOOOOOO

Moving Day

Just a quick note, this morning we moved to an apartment just around the corner from Kostya’s. It belongs to a family from Florida who have been here for 6 years doing missionary work with the local hospital (abandoned children) and establishing a church here in the local neighborhood. We met the wife and 2 of her children (the 8yr boy was adopted from here) and they are very sweet. The husband just returned to the states to help with hurricane relief and resupply. We were going to her church this morning, but I have a touch of the stomach “stuff”, not too fun.

This will probably be “home” for a little while because our situation is this, Edward is in Donetsk and Elizabeth is in Torez (sp?) and we are in Gorlovka. It’s like a triangle, I imagine it as New Bern/Morehead City/Jacksonville trip and logistically, it will be easier to stay here and travel as required.

Paris and Nicole would never survive this episode of The Simple Life, so please keep the comments coming, it makes our day. More pictures coming soon, probably later today. For the true techies, I Bluetooth to our GPRS/GSM cell phone for Internet connectivity basically anywhere I can get a signal (only about $1 per 1Mb so no timed connection worries). We love our boys and wonderful family, just pray specifically for timing and our travels as tomorrow is Meeting Day!

Saturday - Gorlovka

Well we made it to Gorlovka after a 12 hour train ride (our 1^st train ride ever). We arrived here at 6am. Gorlovka is Kostya’s home town and we are staying at his home for the weekend. His wife Olga and son Nikita are very sweet, nice people and are wonderful hosts. One interesting thing about the train was we literally had 2 minutes to get our bags off, Jennie’s suitcase was a challenge! The weather here is beautiful, this morning in the high 50’s. We gave Nikita his shark teeth and Spiderman puzzle and he was very excited, didn’t know what he was saying, but little boy excitement is universal. Apparently, today is the most important soccer match in Ukraine’s history as they stand a chance to qualify for the World Cup, we plan to watch them play Georgia.

Our plans are to stay here tonight, possibly tomorrow, then find an apartment central to the orphanages if possible. The reason the referral letters were a big deal was because we thought we would have to travel back to Kiev to get them, now we should be able to see both Edward and Elizabeth on Monday.

I know our boys may get tired of hearing how much we miss them, but we do, so very much. Hope you guys have a good time with Rob and Olga this weekend. Be helpful and know how much we love you. Bye for now.

We Got Our Referral Letter

Hallelujah!! We got our paper work finished today by the skin of our teeth. We left our apartment at 2 as we had to take our luggage to the train station and check it in a locker (Check out time at the apartment was 2). That was a harrowing experience in itself because we drug our stuff through puddles, packed walk ways and of course many, many, many stairs. We then ran to the NAC (literally) and then sat and waited to get inside. Once it was our turn it took about 10 minutes. We then ventured back to the train station on foot. As we were walking it was very windy. In Kiev they seem to be fixing and painting a lot of structures. Well, as luck would have it a forty foot long fence that was supposed to protect the public from falling objects or debris began to fall like dominoes. We watched in awe as it started to fall and come our way – Kostya tried to hold it up, I jumped out of the way and Jeff was trying to hold it up too. Poor Jeff got hit in the shoulder and hand. Thankfully he had his book bag on – but unfortunately he had his computer in it. (Have you all ever read the children’s story called Unfortunately? Well that was us J) However, it has all been a good adventure and God is good to us through it all! I forgot to tell you all about our subway ride. Another interesting thing. When the train stops in the subway you jump in. Well, unlike the Metro where some would wait and take the next train, no way, about 150 people jump into one car. Perfect opportunity for a stolen wallet or an inadvertent attacka akuley! What a trip that was. You have to literally push yourself in and out when it is your stop. Oh, I forgot to mention it goes about 90 miles and hour but no one has the pleasure of falling down because it’s too packed. I laughed to myself and imagined that it would be funny if we could have some one pick us up like at a concert and we would be vertical over their heads while they handed us off to the next person right out the door.

But seriously, we are safe and sound and so thankful for all that we have done thus far. We are riding on the train and it is really neat. Rob, we have heard the lady walking by selling the chips and pistachios. Kostya has been an awesome guide and a very good friend. He does not like us going anywhere without him. We did venture out to the square today to get out. Jeff bought the internet stuff and I bought some fruit. The lady had to show me the calculator to know how much to pay. We will write soon. When we are somewhat settled and at Kostya’s home we will hopefully be able to call family. We miss you so much. Justin and Jacob, we sure do love you. Please tell Uncle Charles happy belated birthday. God bless you all! Paka!

NAC Day

Today was an exciting day. We went to the NAC and saw the counselor from our last visit. She showed us the pictures again (and yes, they were just as cute and precious as we remembered) and we were able to get the information about the kids and their history. It seems that they have placed Elizabeth in a different orphanage. They are about 45 minutes apart. I have to say we were pretty sad when we heard this. It may also be a bit “dicey” (as Aunt Char says) when it comes to the paper work, etc. We met a few Americans today. They were all really nice and one of them are actually going to be close to where we will be. That would be nice to have someone to hang out with while we are here.

We were then hoping that our paper work would be finished after lunch so we could literally “hop” on the train and go where the kids are but unfortunately, they did not. Today is a “school” holiday here and all the kids started the school year. It was very neat to see the children in front of their schools all dressed up and singing songs. It is a yearly celebration. Many buildings closed early including the NAC. While we were leaving, there were a few rumors flying around about how much time families would have to stay due to a new movement within the adoption realm of Ukraine. Kostya is going to research this tonight and we will have more information. We will give you all the scoop as soon as we know. Please pray for us to have patience and to be refreshed. Especially for tomorrow and the many things we will have to do. I know I must be suffering from jet lag as I feel my head could hit the key board at any time. Whew, it feels like someone hammered me in the head. Jeff was the “bobble head” last night and tonight must be my turn – or it might be the chair……

Anyway, my family and friends, as I said in a prior email, this time is a bit harder for us. We sure do appreciate your prayers and continuing to hold us up. Justin and Jacob, we love you so much! I am sending you both kisses and hugs and a “shark attack” (private family joke – ‘attaka akuliy’) for each of you from Dad and me. Night, night and God bless!